Selfish vs Self

    Satisfaction is the need of life, everyone who wants to be happy search satisfaction in every walk of life, if it is study, job, success or other decision of life for the one or for their family.

    There are two kinds of satisfactions, one you get satisfaction from your decisions and other you want to satisfy your self by the decisions you have taken. These are the two things which make a person selfish of self consistent.

    A person who think that his or her all decisions are perfect. Such a person can be a dominant figure of the family and thinks that their decision is an order which other will follow and that will be in their benefit, but behind every decision there is an interest and the person who takes decisions think of his/her own interest, and interest is the matter which leads to satisfaction, that satisfaction makes the one "Selfish". Because during the decisions he/she just think of their interests, that can be any relations, choices or society.
    Sometimes the decisions are under the pressure of society or relatives, and for fulfilling these the decision maker becomes selfish just because of that, the society or relative will point him/her.

    During this process that person just think of himself and the pressure from society as well, and the decision taken for someone can be crush his/her rights. Such a person know that he is wrong, but he will say everything for satisfying himself that he is right and that decision is for the interest of others. 

    Such a person's life is just breathing but not planing for themselves. Life is too difficult under the pressure of society and thinking before every step what other will say, and with these thinking you snatch the rights and the love of your younger or family members, and such a person will become a patient of depression because he/she pretend to be satisfied but not. What people will say doesn't matter, what you want for yourself it matters. Because people lives their own life and you are living your own and so on everyone has an individual life.

    Now on the other side you have taken a decision and you are relax and happy with it, because that is for yourself, or for whom you have taken it, he/she is agreed. This is called balance and the real satisfaction. You haven't thought about other people, you just looked at yourself and the one for whom you are planing and asked his/her opinion and took a stand for his/her rights. When you succeed you will be feel like a king of your own world, you will head the crown of your own consistency.

    You will be happy from the core of your heart and will be satisfied from your life if you improve "Self". Selfishness will make distance between you and your loved one, nobody will be happy from you and nobody will be stand with you, no one will help you even the God too.

    Improve "Self" because Improving of "Self" decreases the distance between man and God.             

What is Anger?

Anger is a condition of human mind in which he/she is unable to judge the situation and unbalanced in taking decision. In this condition most of the decision taken are wrong, most of the understanding of circumstances are negative and all of the persons in front of you are bad. Because of these all, such a person becomes frustrated and becomes hyper, which let them to talk in high note, to beat someone, to use abusive language for proving that he/she is right.

Now why a person become angry?
The answer of this question according to me as i have noticed and as i have seen it in myself is; we used to face many kind of situations in our daily life, to which we have to solve. We are having a style of living, a mind of decision and an arrow to follow according to us. Now if there is a problem in a situation and i want to solve it according to me, i want to follow my heart but i do opposite because of the society. A fight begin between my center of being and mind, i want to do something but i am doing something else, which make me frustrated and this condition is called anger.

If i am doing something against myself, and i know i am wrong so i will think of all the people around me are wrong. which will lead me to proof them wrong, to argue with them and sometime to fight with them and all the scenario will be failed to solve.

We think a person who is angry or who used to be angry is powerful and he or she can harm you, but i will say that such a person is weaker a lot because he or she has no power to accept his or her mistakes and solve it according to what he or she wants.

Anger is not fighting against others but anger is fighting with yourself, not accepting your mistakes and doing all the acts against your heart.

If you want to live a peaceful life; follow your arrow. Listen to your heart and do, Believe me if you are satisfy within your being you will be relax and then if you want to become angry you will never be.     

Situation is Neutral

Situation is what, the circumstances and happenings going around us. We used to face thousands of happenings in our lives on daily bases. We used to face every situation and after that when we get relax, we call it success. It means that we face all the happenings for getting success.
This world is consist of two things number one Right and number two Wrong which implies to good and bad, and behind them there are situations, which is neither good nor bad. It is just a situation which we have to solve and life is the name of solving those problems we are facing by the situations.
The title i have chosen, is on the basis of the above paragraphs.
For several days i felt frustrated by facing the problems and i was thinking the bad shadow is spreading on my life day by day, what will happen and what will i do....
then i thought i am thinking and i am telling myself that the situations going on are bad situations, so then what are good situation, and if here are good situation and bad situation so it includes in both good and bad.
Then i started thinking that the happenings in my life are not bad situations these are the activities which i have to solve and these are the stairs which let me to move forward in my life and will reward me experience. If i can thinks that these circumstances i am facing are bad shadows so i can also think about the solving of these problems, and when i started thinking about that i felt relax and new ideas appeared in my mind.
I saw that all the people in this world are going in one direction. If a person got success in right way all the people will start following that way, if a person got success in left way all will start following that way, and most of the people used to follow others in the straight line, and they try to find the solution of their situations in the action of others.
As i composed the above picture for explaining the ways we used to follow for getting success, a body is standing in the middle of happenings, looking straight and hands on right and left, but the straight way to success is just behind him and he is not looking at it.
If i got my aims in according to my plannings, that was according to me. If you got your same aims according to your plannings, that is according to you.
For example, I have 2 guests and i want to serve them with bread. I have two slices of bread, i have taken a decision to give one slice to each.
Same you have 2 guests and want to serve bread but you have one slice of bread, now we both were facing same situations we got 2 guests and i serve 1 slice to each but you have one slice so if you will try to follow me in this case you can not do ever. You have to think according to your situations and solve to achieve your aims. You have to divide the slice in to two.

Following others are not the success proving yourself is the real taste of achieving your aims.

From Education to Prison

I saw a picture on social media while scrolling through my account. It forced me to think about present scenario going on in our societies, A story from education to prison.
 Most of the females used to face this travel, they get education but they are bound to just read and write not to make their lives.
The credit goes to the guardians of those souls which are in their own body but in the prison of somebody else. In stage of getting education they are in imprisonment of Parents after getting education they hold this property to someone else they want, and then she will be serving that person of not of her choice.

Just read and write is not the meaning of education, education means to aware the society, to increase the ability of selection, to be a leading personality, to taking own decisions, and to live a life according to own choice.

In our society, if any girl takes her own decision, she doesn't have manners. But those who are taking a decision on her behalf they are caring. If she likes someone, she made a crime. But those who like someone on her behalf they are completing their duties. The question is, their duties are just to admit her in a school then in a college and during the college or even in school, in the age of immaturity they make her engaged with someone she don't know or like. But she have to spend her life because she is a girl and she have to be silent for the cause of relatives and society. If she takes any stand against this culture, she is treated as disobedient, she is tortured by many ways emotionally or sometimes physically.

According to religious point of view, every man and woman have a right to choose a partner for themselves. Look at the tradition of marriage, did you think why it is essential in every religion and society. Marriage ceremony is completed with a contract of agreement between male and female. It is because if any girl is not agree and she is doing her marriage in pressure of society, so during this contract she can show her intentions in front of any elder she want or a religious scholar.

But what is the point for the family decision takers that is more important than religion, that is more important than the rights of their daughter, that is more important than her happiness. That point is what the relatives will say about them. And with this point they kill their children's rights, happiness and lives.

After taking education they make their daughters prisoners. They let them to read and write, but never let them to lead and right.  

The Damage Stopped Clock

       

        Everything I think of has a positive aspect; even it’s full of negativity. I was setting with my friends and waiting for a conference outside the hall. There was the exercise of jet fighter planes, and the grooving attracted my eyes towards the jet, which was going over the clock tower.

       

        It was 9:30 in the morning but the time in the clock tower was 2:35. It was a stopped clock. I was looking at it and was thinking that this clock is not working, it is useless. But besides, it shows right time twice a day. 

        

        I took the concentration of my friends towards the clock tower. And told them that everything has a positive aspect, even we think it is not working, it is useless as like a damage stopped clock didn’t show the correct time, but it used to be right twice a day.

     

       If anyone is having hundreds of bad things but he will have one good too. Evil is full of sins but committed to his deal to make mankind mislead.  

Crispy leaves

It was the beginning of winter; I was walking in the lawn of a school before taking session. When I reached under the tree I heard the crispy sound of autumn leaves. The sound was like I put my feet on chips. I took up one of the leaves; it was brown, wrinkled and old. Suddenly I thought, it was green before, and I compared these dead leaves with human life.

       Leaves that take their birth as buds that appear on trees. Same the human life starts when they born. After some time the buds converted into green fresh leaves, that resembles to the young energetic human. When time passes, the leaves start change its color, like a human gets old. And then it fells down from the tree, the human dies. Dead leaves and Dead human. The only difference between the human and leaves is, we can see the leaves physically for some days because they are on the earth but human, as they die the alive people burry or burn them in a while.

      Thus, if we observe so everything around us has a story related to us with a strong message.

THE SNAIL

It crawls on wet grass, makes no sound. It enjoys morning crawl and suddenly feet crushes it, you hear a crunch, look at it and say; Ohhhh it was a snail but believe me it was a life.

I got this point on 10^th of April 2018 by 7:45 am in the morning, when I reached to my university department and was waiting for my friends in the lawn beside the auditorium. It rained last night, and Grass was wet. The sun rays reflected on the water drops on the blades of the grass attracted my eyes, as It was the sparkling diamonds. I was enjoying the freshness of plants around, as I saw the pure green color first time. Suddenly I heard a crunch under my feet; I looked down and noticed that it was a snail, but no more in this world. I felt hurt, but with that I learnt some lessons.

 One put every step in your life with care, that neither harms you nor others. Enjoy your life, but see around that your enjoyment is not disturbing someone’s life. Second raise your voice when you need it, because this world will crush you and will ignore.

   The important thing in Life is to take stand for your rights, and speak for yourself. Sometimes we remain silent for some reasons and others decide the more important event of our life, to which we may not be agreed. And for the rest of your life you will just breathe and pass the time. No one will care for you if you will not care of yourself. Living for others is meaningful life but remembering yourself is the mean and need of life.

I will suggest that “Live for others, but never leave yourself”.