A Flower on Cactus

    For a long time I am observing to surrounding, different people lives around me having different thinking and approaches. Hurdles and relaxation is part of life but those are in our hands. We want to be relax and satisfy by what we have done.

    Let me clarify that, every one in this world has aims, for achieving those he/she does struggle, make strategies and communicate to the concern parties. It will be interesting to have a look on our daily lives and the targeted aims we have and struggle for it.

   Getting up in the morning and taking shower: for that we have to leave the bed walk towards shower starting it after that we can be able to take it.

   Doing breakfast: boiling eggs, taking butter, bread, making tea or coffee.

   Going to institute, office or shop: leaving home taking bus, bike, cycle or car and count the distance, and same then from work to home again and taking dinner then going to bed, each and every work needs struggle and concern things or people accordingly.

   These were just the simple activities we used to do in our daily lives but here are big one too, like making relationships and achieving the main goal of life. I will touch these two examples for better understanding because these are usually found in our surroundings.

   The idea of making new relationships, I got when I was discussing about this topic to my friend. Its true stories happened in front of my eyes. In our society mostly when a guy and girl like each other and their families are against them. It’s story of a daughter whose parents want; she should marry where they want. Now the aim of daughter is to marry of her choice and her parents want according to their own wish. They claim that their purpose is the happiness of their daughter. For the satisfaction of their daughter they met the boy, the boy tried his best and respected them with the core of heart. The parents came and told their daughter all lie, the boy is dumb and he insulted us, he will destroy your life. Will you marry a guy who insulted your parents?

  The daughters are so innocent and they have just one answer, I will do what you want. The achievement of one aim with the sacrificing of other. Daughter starts the journey of compromise and seems happy in front of everyone, but may be not in center of being. Because compromise is a kind of disposable and short term happiness.

   Expectation of long term and positive result by achieving your aim on behalf of lie is same like a flower on cactus which you can see but if you want to touch it you will be injured.

Having side so every picture has two sides. The second part I want to discuss is “achieving the main goals of life”. In short don’t give up, hope for the best, because you can be a flower on cactus that everyone can see you but can’t pluck you easily.

Be the One or None

   Ground is the opportunity, floors are the achievements, and stairs are the steps to follow these achievements. Everyone wants to be on top and here is a race among all the beings living in this world to reach at first floor then second and third and so on. We need a shortcut to reach to the top at once, and a number of people do success in it, but with none experience, and then the system they are heading do not work properly because they have missed the steps and came through descending order to the roof. They haven’t experienced the hurdles to pass through different steps. Let me share an example here, there is a building of 10 floors two persons have to reach on the top, one is following the stairs and the other took lift. The person by lift reached before the one by stairs.

Now the interview begins, the person who reached by lift was relax and the one by stairs was tired. The interviewer asked both about every floor, the person who reached before by lift was unable to give answer because he does not saw anything and the person who was late knew about every floor.

   Reaching at the top before everyone, using shortcuts is not the real success, success without facing hurdles is not possible, because these hurdles make you experienced and by following steps one by one you will be learned.

First step is very important, because it is the base of the top. We cannot build the top floor without making the first which is known as “ONE”. We cannot reach to these floors without stepping on stair number one. One is the base without it billions and trillions are impossible. One (class/level) in the school makes us able to use words and sentences. One in the time makes seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and finally years. One is invention others are copies. One is real Two and so on digits are derived.

The real successful man on the top rank is that who know about the journey from ONE to n…

Be the ONE because this will be your identity. If ONE is subtracted from one it becomes Zero.

Be the ONE otherwise you are NONE…    

The Real Love

     For a very long time I was thinking about, what is Love?

Is meeting someone and always thinking about him or her is love?

Is attachment to someone is love?

Is caring of someone is love?

We do love or love is already existed?

I was thinking of these all things and finally I decided to do a survey so I wrote a text message and send it to all of my phone contacts. I got the following replies:

1. Love is an unbreakable bond between two individuals.
      

      2. Love is feeling.
      
3. Love is addiction.

   

      4. Where there is love, there would be no demand of expectations.
       

      5. Obsession and powerful feelings, Emotion.
    

      6. Love is all about respect and care.

7. Love is the name of baring everything for getting each other, it’s a pure relation
   
 8. Love is Trust and there is no space of doubt.

     Every one of the above answers, made me doubtful because everyone of them raised another question.

     If love is an unbreakable bond then why people do breakups in the relationship, before that they were in love.

If love is feeling then there are other feelings too which make us happy and sad also so then pain is love and gain is love.

If love is addiction so people who are addicted to drugs, love drugs?

If there is no demand of expectations in love then why people demand to be together and if they don’t so then there is no love?

If emotion is love then we usually get emotional to the street children doing hard work in burning sun, or we get emotional watching a sensational movie or drama, so is this love?

We respect all the elders and the elders care of younger, if we give respect to any elder we meet first time, do we love him or her?

Do getting each other is love, means if not so there is no love? Do with the death of someone, the love ends?

If love is the name of trust so then why most of the relationships break with doubt?

   

      In all of the definitions there is something between two persons, and where there is something there is no love. Love is a constant condition within a human which doesn’t change or converted, if you find yourself converted toward someone else, it means there was no love.

Love is a condition in which someone becomes your center of being, if he or she is with you or not but is within you, within your center of being. Love is the condition that you see yourself in someone else eyes and he or she see him/herself in your eyes and there is nothing in between, even there is no thinking. Love is beyond everything, Love is the name of oneness the connection of souls, love is already existed and we just wait to meet our already connected soul.

    (A mother don’t love her children, the love that is existed already don’t need to do.)

     Love is that relationship which doesn’t need anything, there is no power of demand, wish of gaining, or greed of anything, the concept of I and you will be end there will be just I and the existence of two individuals in one I is called love.

     

     If I got you or not, you are with me, you will be, even you are within me, and there is nothing between us because there can be nothing between me and myself.

And this is real Love….

Selfish vs Self

    Satisfaction is the need of life, everyone who wants to be happy search satisfaction in every walk of life, if it is study, job, success or other decision of life for the one or for their family.

    There are two kinds of satisfactions, one you get satisfaction from your decisions and other you want to satisfy your self by the decisions you have taken. These are the two things which make a person selfish of self consistent.

    A person who think that his or her all decisions are perfect. Such a person can be a dominant figure of the family and thinks that their decision is an order which other will follow and that will be in their benefit, but behind every decision there is an interest and the person who takes decisions think of his/her own interest, and interest is the matter which leads to satisfaction, that satisfaction makes the one "Selfish". Because during the decisions he/she just think of their interests, that can be any relations, choices or society.
    Sometimes the decisions are under the pressure of society or relatives, and for fulfilling these the decision maker becomes selfish just because of that, the society or relative will point him/her.

    During this process that person just think of himself and the pressure from society as well, and the decision taken for someone can be crush his/her rights. Such a person know that he is wrong, but he will say everything for satisfying himself that he is right and that decision is for the interest of others. 

    Such a person's life is just breathing but not planing for themselves. Life is too difficult under the pressure of society and thinking before every step what other will say, and with these thinking you snatch the rights and the love of your younger or family members, and such a person will become a patient of depression because he/she pretend to be satisfied but not. What people will say doesn't matter, what you want for yourself it matters. Because people lives their own life and you are living your own and so on everyone has an individual life.

    Now on the other side you have taken a decision and you are relax and happy with it, because that is for yourself, or for whom you have taken it, he/she is agreed. This is called balance and the real satisfaction. You haven't thought about other people, you just looked at yourself and the one for whom you are planing and asked his/her opinion and took a stand for his/her rights. When you succeed you will be feel like a king of your own world, you will head the crown of your own consistency.

    You will be happy from the core of your heart and will be satisfied from your life if you improve "Self". Selfishness will make distance between you and your loved one, nobody will be happy from you and nobody will be stand with you, no one will help you even the God too.

    Improve "Self" because Improving of "Self" decreases the distance between man and God.             

What is Anger?

Anger is a condition of human mind in which he/she is unable to judge the situation and unbalanced in taking decision. In this condition most of the decision taken are wrong, most of the understanding of circumstances are negative and all of the persons in front of you are bad. Because of these all, such a person becomes frustrated and becomes hyper, which let them to talk in high note, to beat someone, to use abusive language for proving that he/she is right.

Now why a person become angry?
The answer of this question according to me as i have noticed and as i have seen it in myself is; we used to face many kind of situations in our daily life, to which we have to solve. We are having a style of living, a mind of decision and an arrow to follow according to us. Now if there is a problem in a situation and i want to solve it according to me, i want to follow my heart but i do opposite because of the society. A fight begin between my center of being and mind, i want to do something but i am doing something else, which make me frustrated and this condition is called anger.

If i am doing something against myself, and i know i am wrong so i will think of all the people around me are wrong. which will lead me to proof them wrong, to argue with them and sometime to fight with them and all the scenario will be failed to solve.

We think a person who is angry or who used to be angry is powerful and he or she can harm you, but i will say that such a person is weaker a lot because he or she has no power to accept his or her mistakes and solve it according to what he or she wants.

Anger is not fighting against others but anger is fighting with yourself, not accepting your mistakes and doing all the acts against your heart.

If you want to live a peaceful life; follow your arrow. Listen to your heart and do, Believe me if you are satisfy within your being you will be relax and then if you want to become angry you will never be.     

Situation is Neutral

Situation is what, the circumstances and happenings going around us. We used to face thousands of happenings in our lives on daily bases. We used to face every situation and after that when we get relax, we call it success. It means that we face all the happenings for getting success.
This world is consist of two things number one Right and number two Wrong which implies to good and bad, and behind them there are situations, which is neither good nor bad. It is just a situation which we have to solve and life is the name of solving those problems we are facing by the situations.
The title i have chosen, is on the basis of the above paragraphs.
For several days i felt frustrated by facing the problems and i was thinking the bad shadow is spreading on my life day by day, what will happen and what will i do....
then i thought i am thinking and i am telling myself that the situations going on are bad situations, so then what are good situation, and if here are good situation and bad situation so it includes in both good and bad.
Then i started thinking that the happenings in my life are not bad situations these are the activities which i have to solve and these are the stairs which let me to move forward in my life and will reward me experience. If i can thinks that these circumstances i am facing are bad shadows so i can also think about the solving of these problems, and when i started thinking about that i felt relax and new ideas appeared in my mind.
I saw that all the people in this world are going in one direction. If a person got success in right way all the people will start following that way, if a person got success in left way all will start following that way, and most of the people used to follow others in the straight line, and they try to find the solution of their situations in the action of others.
As i composed the above picture for explaining the ways we used to follow for getting success, a body is standing in the middle of happenings, looking straight and hands on right and left, but the straight way to success is just behind him and he is not looking at it.
If i got my aims in according to my plannings, that was according to me. If you got your same aims according to your plannings, that is according to you.
For example, I have 2 guests and i want to serve them with bread. I have two slices of bread, i have taken a decision to give one slice to each.
Same you have 2 guests and want to serve bread but you have one slice of bread, now we both were facing same situations we got 2 guests and i serve 1 slice to each but you have one slice so if you will try to follow me in this case you can not do ever. You have to think according to your situations and solve to achieve your aims. You have to divide the slice in to two.

Following others are not the success proving yourself is the real taste of achieving your aims.

From Education to Prison

I saw a picture on social media while scrolling through my account. It forced me to think about present scenario going on in our societies, A story from education to prison.
 Most of the females used to face this travel, they get education but they are bound to just read and write not to make their lives.
The credit goes to the guardians of those souls which are in their own body but in the prison of somebody else. In stage of getting education they are in imprisonment of Parents after getting education they hold this property to someone else they want, and then she will be serving that person of not of her choice.

Just read and write is not the meaning of education, education means to aware the society, to increase the ability of selection, to be a leading personality, to taking own decisions, and to live a life according to own choice.

In our society, if any girl takes her own decision, she doesn't have manners. But those who are taking a decision on her behalf they are caring. If she likes someone, she made a crime. But those who like someone on her behalf they are completing their duties. The question is, their duties are just to admit her in a school then in a college and during the college or even in school, in the age of immaturity they make her engaged with someone she don't know or like. But she have to spend her life because she is a girl and she have to be silent for the cause of relatives and society. If she takes any stand against this culture, she is treated as disobedient, she is tortured by many ways emotionally or sometimes physically.

According to religious point of view, every man and woman have a right to choose a partner for themselves. Look at the tradition of marriage, did you think why it is essential in every religion and society. Marriage ceremony is completed with a contract of agreement between male and female. It is because if any girl is not agree and she is doing her marriage in pressure of society, so during this contract she can show her intentions in front of any elder she want or a religious scholar.

But what is the point for the family decision takers that is more important than religion, that is more important than the rights of their daughter, that is more important than her happiness. That point is what the relatives will say about them. And with this point they kill their children's rights, happiness and lives.

After taking education they make their daughters prisoners. They let them to read and write, but never let them to lead and right.